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The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen R. Covey

By Chad Carson 2 Comments Filed Under: Book Summaries

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Book Cover - The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R Covey

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What I Like About the Book

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People was a book that came into my life at the perfect time. I remember “borrowing” it from my dad’s bookshelf right after college (I don’t think he ever got it back!). It blew me way at the time because it was so useful and profound. Since then, the ideas from the book have had a large influence on my thinking and my approach to business and life.

I recommend and reference this book constantly, and I’ve probably reread it 6 or 7 times. The reason I keep coming back to it is because it contains principles that apply to many parts of life, including personal growth, relationships, business success, and more.

What I like most about the book is that it doesn’t contain slick techniques or methods to influence others (or yourself) in a way that makes you feel slimy. The advice is similar to what you’d hear from your grandparents, but Stephen Covey delivers it with stories, examples, and data to back up his recommendations.

Here are my favorite ideas from the book, although there are many more I had to leave out.

My Favorite Big Ideas From the Book

**When possible for further reading, I include links to past articles I have written on each big idea.

1. Inside Out – Private Victories Precede Public Victories

If you want exterior types of greatness, like career success, money, or recognition, you have to begin inside yourself. There are no shortcuts. It starts with you. And more fundamentally, it starts with your mental paradigms, your character, and your motivations.

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2. Paradigm Shifts

A paradigm is the way you see the world. It’s the entire lens or filter through which every idea or experience enters your brain.  Therefore, to truly and deeply change your results with business, investing, or life, you have to change your paradigms. Some of the most famous people in history like Christopher Columbus, Albert Einstein, and Martin Luther King changed the paradigms of entire societies. It sometimes takes that kind of radical, outside-the-box thinking to change your own ingrained paradigms.

3. Be Proactive 

Life happens (stimulus), and we react (response). But between the stimulus and the response is a gap. This gap is our freedom to choose. Victims blame circumstances and others for their problems. They ignore the gap. But truly effective or proactive people embrace the gap between stimulus and response. They work to widen it so that they control life despite external circumstances. This is called being response-able, and it gives you personal freedom no matter your outside circumstances.

Further Reading: 

  • Optimism – The Last of the Human Freedoms

4. Begin With the End in Mind 

All things are created twice – first in your mind and second in real life. This is the habit of values, vision, and goals. By first creating the ideal in your mind, you can then work to bring the ideal into physical reality. This is the habit I practice every year with my Annual Review.  It’s also the habit at the heart of the big picture, self-discovery exercises in the second article below.

Further Reading: 

  • The Annual Review – The #1 Habit of Exceptional People
  • 3 Helpful Self-Reflection Exercises For the New Year

5. Put First Things First

Being effective means doing “the right” things on a day-to-day basis.  The right things are the important priorities, values, and goals you decided in the previous habit. To execute these priorities, you must focus only on what’s truly important, and ignore what’s unimportant.

Further Reading:

  • The Urgent & Important – How to Take Control of Your Time

6. Emotional Bank Accounts

The trust you have for another person (and the trust they have for you) is the ultimate bank account. Trust (or lack thereof) makes or breaks your personal and professional relationships. “Dividends” occur when your trust is high with someone. “Taxes” occur when your trust is low or non-existent. You can build trust over time by making sincere, consistent deposits into your relationship with another person. There are no short-cuts.

Further Reading:

  • Trust – The Ultimate Bank Account (& 6 Ways to Grow It)

7. Think Win-Win or No Deal

Win-win isn’t my way or your way. It’s a third way – a better alternative reached by a process of mutual listening and a desire to understand one another.  The alternatives (Win-Lose, Lose-Win, or Lose-Lose) are the typical results of negotiating, but the side-effects are broken relationships and lack of trust. Win-Win is a more difficult but worthy goal. No Deal is often a necessary fall-back when the relationship is more important than the final result.

Further Reading: 

  • A Powerful Alternative to Soft or Hard Negotiating – How to Land Win-Win Deals

8. Seek First to Understand, Then Be Understood

In order to influence another person, you must first sincerely seek to understand them. Listening is the primary skill. Don’t assume you know a solution before you understand the problem. It’s like a doctor providing a prescription before making a diagnosis. People have a need to be understood, appreciated, and validated. So, problems with people are not just about facts. Understanding also means listening empathetically for feeling, meaning, and context.

9. The Circles of Concern & Influence

Happier, more effective people focus more on what they CAN control and less on what they can’t. In other words, they only focus on their circle of influence.  Of course, there will still be other things in your larger circle of concern. But if the concern does not overlap with your circle of influence, the only logical response is to either accept it or work to grow your circle of influence (over time).

Further Reading:

  • How to Reduce Worry, Stress, & Anxiety – The Circles of Concern & Influence

My Favorite Quotes From the Book

You can’t be successful with other people if you haven’t paid the price of success with yourself.”

Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People


My friend, love is a verb. Love—the feeling—is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?”

Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People


Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose.”

Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People


You can’t talk your way out of a problem you behaved your way into!”

Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People


If You Liked This Book, You Might Also Like:

  • The Speed of Trust, by Stephen M.R. Covey ( Print | Ebook | Audiobook)
  • Getting Things Done, by David Allen ( Print | Ebook | Audiobook)
  • Awaken the Giant Within, by Tony Robbins ( Print | Ebook | Audiobook)
  • How to Win Friends & Influence People, by Dale Carnegie ( Print | Ebook | Audiobook)

What do you think?

Have you read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People? Did you like it? What were your favorite ideas? What are the ideas from the book most important to you? I’d love to hear from you in the comments section below!

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  1. Julie Belton says

    May 6, 2017 at 6:51 pm

    Hi Chad – I first heard of the 7 Habits about 25 years ago from my (then) boyfriend who was training at the Naval Academy in Annapolis MD and went on to become a Navy Pilot (ah, the one that got away!!) 🙂 It was also recommended reading material for me as a newly minted manager shortly before the grand opening of The Ritz Carlton Hotel in St. Thomas USVI where I was living at the time. It seemed strange that the same book would be part of the educational program of two such vastly different organizations, however upon reading it, I realized that the content applies just as much to military personnel as to hotel staff, since it represents fundamental core values that translate into almost any environment. Its one of those books that ought to be mandatory reading for every human being … although you are right – one must read it at a time when one’s brain is receptive to the concepts! Another similar (and very old) book is “How to make friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie”, but the message is equally timeless. More recently, I came across”The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz, which was equally impactful at a time when I really needed a deeper understanding of life an people. That book, along with “The Voice of Knowledge” and “Mastery of Love” by the same author practically changed my life! It was a very dark period and I was regularly driving long distances at the time, so I listened to the audio books over and over until they really sunk in! They saved my sanity!
    After reading your article about the 7 habits, it makes sense that I was drawn to your site when there are so many other on line forums about Real Estate Investment these days. In addition to the excellent factual content, I sensed a certain moral character in your writing that indicates virtues such as empathy, courage, honesty, and integrity. The same core values that made me fall for that Navy Pilot all those years ago! Thank you for sharing your knowledge and insight with the unseen community of hopeful real estate investors – I for one appreciate it!

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  2. Chad Carson says

    May 12, 2017 at 5:59 pm

    Hi Julie! Thank you for your thoughtful comment, your kind words, and for sharing your own story with The 7 Habits Book. It’s amazing how deeply rooted, helpful ideas can apply to so many circumstances. I agree that this would be a great book for people to read in school at some point. In fact, at my daughters elementary school I remember seeing snippets of the 7 habits on posters in their rooms. Apparently it’s made its way there too!

    Wishing you all the best in your current and future projects. Thank you for following along with me. It’s an honor to have you!

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